It took me a minute to decide if I wanted to share my experience with dating after divorce. It has not been that bad for me you guys. After being married for over 20 years and that ending abruptly a few years ago, I didn’t know what to expect since things have changed so much in the dating scene and I live in a city where there is so many people. I do know that I NEVER gave up on LOVE and I like the feeling of it. I was scared to death to date again and my daughter was the first person to tell me, “mom you have to get back out there”.
I didn’t pay her any mind because I’m pretty much old school and will admit it. I’m older and stuck in my ways and I’m extremely picky. I believe in a guy approaching me, not vice versa, taking me out on a “real date” not this Netflix and chill kinda stuff lol. Plus with all these dating apps, online craziness and I can go on, I didn’t know what to do or expect lol. At first, I was getting a lot of suitors that were extremely YOUNG guys. I was like are you kidding me lol? I also never really made a public announcement either that I was divorced but people quickly started putting two and two together. So men would ask me out occasionally and say things to me but I was just not ready or interested for about a full year. So I kept to myself and just got my mind, body and spirit together as much as I could.
Then one day, I met someone online that had been following me for awhile and he wrote me a message one day and I kinda liked him but was still hesitant. We met for brunch one afternoon and we hit it off! I am happy to say that we are STILL together after that initial date, but taking it slow and we enjoy each others company. It’s been almost two years now and I can’t believe that I met someone here in Atlanta that I truly like! You always hear these horrible stories of how it’s so hard to meet somewhere here. We shall see where it goes, no rush but I’m VERY happy and he is too!
My friend and relationship expert Tracy McMillian has some great tips on relationships and I wanted to share them with you inside…
Great advice/tips from my friend “Relationship Expert” Tracy McMillian
Welcome whatever is happening in your new relationship.
You have to be willing to have a new experience
What is your mind set going forward
What did you get out of your last relationship, what did you did not get?
Find out who you are, what you want to be.
What was your part in your divorce?
Start being human/vulnerable/real.
Bring a feeling or tone to your relationship.
Notice what you are attracted to, how you respond to people, what your beliefs are, be self aware.
Find somebody who is interesting enough to you.
Have an open mind and open heart, take care of yourself first.