That Jealous Spirit - Talking With Tami

That Jealous Spirit

November 23rd, 2010

“Sometimes people allow their emotions to cause them to act out of hostility and bitterness. An envious person suffers far more than the one he is targeting….

The Lord already knows our thoughts and the intents of our hearts. May we all realize that feeling envious is the same as objecting to God’s blessing on someone else’s life. God tells us that we should love our neighbor as ourself.  We are to prefer our brothers and sisters and to wish them well in all things.  We should pray for God to bless them abundantly, not be envious of what God does for someone else!  Regardless of how people try to rationalize those feelings, they are in conflict with the Lord. A person cannot have a jealous spirit and be right with the Lord at the same time.”

I’m noticing over and over again a slew of women out here with horrible jealous spirits. Envy and Jealousy is no laughing matter and has resulted in people doing some crazy and horrible things to each other.

I’ve seen women go into bankruptcy trying to keep up with the next chic,really? I wouldn’t give a damn if you were driving the most expensive car made, rocking the hottest purse or prancing around in the priciest stiletto designer shoes. Who knows what you had to do to get those type of things anyway, and most are still miserable after buying all that crap.You gotta pay that bill not me! I have had those things too and learned early on that, that does not define me. Don’t get me wrong, I love nice sparkly things too but when you have a family,those things go by the wayside real fast. I will take my loving family over the latest shoes or purse any day of the week!

I have never had a jealous bone in my body.I may jokingly say, awh I’m jealous but in the back of my mind, I’m thinking what is for you, is for you and what is for me is for me. I’m very happy for others accomplishments. I have always been the biggest cheerleader for other women, sometimes I don’t get that in return but thats ok, I’m a big girl, that wears big panties, I can take it lol.

We as women, and especially us black women need to learn how to deal with that jealous spirit, It’s not becoming and I know so many people who suffer from this.If you can’t figure it out there is counseling out there too. I have soo many stories of women who have said some hurtful things to me while out and about. Things like, “Oh I’m going to start a blog too and it’s going to be better than yours” I always blank stare them and I look around today, and I see their work nowhere in sight lol. Chile please!

If you are that kind of a person that wants to be in competition with me, or can’t be happy for my blessings, please stay clear of me. As a child of God though I will say a prayer for you (at a distance) and kill you with kindness if I see you out lol. That is all!


  1. Angela says:

    I love this!! I wish that more of us felt this way. Jealously will eat some people alive. SMH!!

    On another note.. the SUPER side-eye in that pic is HILARIOUS!!!

  2. OneBrownGirl says:

    The more successful you become, the more haters you will have. It’s just a fact of nature. And it means you’re doing something.

    I do think there is a difference between envy and jealousy. I may envy something someone has and still have a positive spirit about. “OMG…You went where?!?!?!” is much different that “OMG…She thinks she’s all that because she travels.”

    There will always be haters. Continue success, of course, is the best revenge. ;-)

  3. OneBrownGirl says:

    *Continued success, of course, is the best revenge.

    (I figure if I make a typo, it’s a sign that I need to repeat something. LOL)

  4. Candace says:

    I can’t wait until we can just get over envy and hate and just be happy for and with eachother (sorry if that’s preachy) but don’t you love it when you’re nothing but nice and your haters can’t stand it!! lol

    Praying for your continued success..keep pushing!

  5. TheSecretLifeofMe says:

    Good post!!!! Agreed OneBrownGirl

    envy disappears in the presence of love. I Corinthians 13:4 says that “love … does not envy.” So, when we truly love our neighbors, we stop envying them…By letting go of envy, we can appreciate all of the blessings that God has given us in our own lives.

  6. TheSecretLifeofMe says:

    FYI… I was agreeing with the 9:55am

  7. AMEN!

    I always go back to my grandmother. As a little girl, and growing up she always used to tell me to celebrate the accomplishments of others! Use their “vision” and accomplishments as INSPIRATION. I have done that all of my life because it was beaten into my head and because it works!

    I thank God that I had this woman in my life, because she shared the most amazing wisdom – long before “vision boards” and what have you. Celebrate – because when others shine it gives you “permission” to do the same – it is assurance that YOU can too! Now, this philosophy is a part of who I am.

    So Miss Lady – you keep shining!!! It’s a beautiful sight to see! The others…well, look at it this way – their jealousy is their journey. Hopefully they will find their path, and purpose. Send them off to find it – whatever it may be. :)

  8. PREACH TAMI !!! I get that as well.

  9. Anna says:

    If you do not have it then it must not be for you to have. Material things come and go and besides no one can take any earthly possessions with them when you leave this earth. The only solution I can give is seek God why he may be found. God is Love. Love will drive envy straight to the pits of hell. Personally, I am working on being content and always have been happy to see women get material things. As for gifts of Love, Peace, and Joy give me more of the unseen God.

  10. gagirl87 says:

    I agree that is the motto I live by “What God Has For Me, Is For Me” and vice versa… :)

  11. Erika says:

    That was a powerful post and very well expressed. Jealousy has been around since the beginning of time and like you said your kindness is the most effective in neutralizing the negativity.

    You don’t need me to tell you to keep doing what you are doing. You are making your mark and enjoying life while the others who come against you sulk in misery. We should all pray for their healing…

  12. Liz says:

    I understand you. Besides, jealousy takes too much of your energy. Especially, as single black women, there tends to be a lot of jealousy but sometimes the “grass is not always greener on the other side.” We have to stop focusing on what other people and concentrate what we do have and thank God for that.

Leave a Reply