This post is dedicated to my one and only sister Darlene “Fuzz” Arnold. Lots of people that have been around me, didn’t really know that I had a big sister because I hardly talk about my sibling. We had lost touch over the years because basically she didn’t have any way to communicate with me. About two years ago on my birthday, she walked out of a correctional facility and moved to another city. She asked someone to use their cell phone and called me screaming in the phone that she was free! I was so happy to hear from my sister because it had been over seven years. You may ask, why didn’t I keep in touch with my sister over the years but let me explain…
Every since we were young, my sister and I have been extremely close. We did everything together, we were even homeless together. I remember back in the day, I wasn’t much of a eater and my mom would yell at me for not eating my food but my sister would feel sorry for me and eat my food for me so that I wouldn’t get in trouble. She would try to fight my battles over the years, protect me from guys that meant me no good and so much more. She was always my protector and felt like it was her job. She is still like that till this day lol. I will admit, I was kinda embarrassed of my sister in high school because she was known as a bully and hung out with the wrong crowd. I disassociated myself from her and would take different routes in school because I didn’t want to run into her in the hallway lol.
I loved her dearly but we were two totally different people living opposite lives. Once the word got around the school that she was indeed was my sister, they became scared of me and her lol. I don’t know if that was a good or bad thing lol. I then went off to college(late 80’s) and my sister was left in the mean streets of Cleveland. The alcohol, bad choices in friends and drugs got the best of her. For years, she was in and out of jail, in rehab facilities, transitional housing and went into a downward spiral. I felt so bad for her. Over the years me, my mom and other family members tried to help her but as we all know, they have to get tired. Then one day she did.
I’m proud to say that my big sis is doing extremely well now and she has turned over a new leaf on life! We talk every single day and she just moved into her own place! She left Cleveland for a smaller city but I will get to see her for the first time in two weeks and I’m so excited! Its been well over 7 years since I have laid eyes on her, or hugged her. She tells me how proud she is of me and we talk for hours on end about childhood memories, life, and the kids. She has two grown sons and she is a grandmother now. Boy does time fly!
All that I have posted today, my sister is aware of, she wants people to know her struggles, she is not ashamed of what happened to her in the past. She wants people to learn from her mistakes. She missed out on so many milestones in her life and my kids lives as an Auntie. I still thank God for her being alive and able to talk to me. I’m grateful for still having my sister here in this world with me.
Never turn your back on family members when they are down. We all have someone in our family that has an issue. If you can help them in some sort of way, do that. It will mean a lot to them. Maybe not with monetary things but being a listening ear, helping in some sort of way or just being there. Here is a picture she sent me of what she looks like today but I can’t wait to see her in person. God thank you for blessing me with my sister, she is ALL I have and I LOVE her so much! Please protect her and keep her safe. Be blessed guys and love your family no matter what! xoxo